JJMEsquire

Ok so I'm in Australia and this is the first time I've ever put my toe in an PvP game - normally I'm a solo gamer, RPG and Grand Strategy 4X are my jam. However, I loved RDR2 so much that I just wanted to keep playing and after a few hours it's clear it would be more fun with a posse. Even playing Solo Free Roam I've got some questions about the game. I'm playing PC and I've found some posts here asking peeps to join fun Posses, but they all say 'message me'. When I go to message I'm told "You can send 0 messages per day". How do I fix that? Secondly in the PvP events I end up in I'm regularly being brutally abused in a blend of english and chinese (maybe korean) and I'm wondering if there's some etiqutte or play-style I'm ignoring and ruining peeps experience? People seem genuinely angry and the one word I could discern from the streams of foreign invective was "megaphone"... does RDR have a more stealth style, despite the presence of live radar? The solo game wasn't exactly stealth.... Anyways after shutting up and just trying to play I swear I was booted, got a dialogue box with "unknown error: FFFFFF" and the whole game crashed. Never happened before and happened twice the other night. Anyway my experience online hasn't been that fun to date - either silence from whomever I'm with in story missions or rampant abuse in PvP arenas - I'm just looking for some fun western high-jinks, get some better clothes and gear and generally have a good time. Any help for this inexperienced online gamer much appreciated.